Monday, March 22, 2010

The Closeness of Age

One of my favorite things to do is to listen to my little B's playing together. I usually do it while I'm working or cleaning. It is what I enjoy most about vacations from school. They are so funny and sweet and wonderful to hear! One day, I heard them in Britt's room, and Brailey Shaye was singing, and Britt said, "There'll be no singing in this room! This is a No Singing Room." To which Brailey replied, "Britt! If you don't sing, God will take your talent away." Needless to say, I got a charge out of this.

My kiddos are extremely close to each other, and I think they get along better than most kids do, for which I am eternally thankful. My brother and I did not and do not get along. I think it has something to do with age... This is my theory: if kids are less than two years apart, they get along. If they are more than two years apart, they fight with each other. I think this is because when you are older than two and a new person comes into the family, it causes you to be jealous and resentful, because you are starting to have a memory, and you know how it was to be the big cheese. However, before memory develops, which is ususally prior to two years of age, you don't have all the same jealousies and insecurities, which translates into more affection between one another. I came up with this theory through interviewing every parent I know on how their kids get along and what the age differences are. Me and my brother? We are three, almost four years apart. See what I mean?

Whatever the case may be, I am so thankful for the friendship my kids have with one another. And it hurts my heart when school is in session and I see them losing their closeness. It doesn't take long for them to reconnect, but it still makes me sad when they lose even a shred of their connection with each other. Which is one of the reasons I live for summers and days off from school.

I think this is such a big deal to me because of the fact that my brother and I don't get along. And when I say "don't get along,"I mean my brother absolutely despises me. I know, huh? Can you believe it? Someone who doesn't like me? Well, it's okay. It took me years to accept the fact that he truly could not stand me and to move on from the pain in my heart it caused, but I've finally come to a place where I can accept it. Not easy, but doable if you are tougher than nails, such as I. (Yes, I really am that tough.)

In any event, I am always touched when my B's have fun together and just play with one another. One day this winter, they got on a phone kick. Britt does not like to talk on the phone at all, but Brailey Shaye loves it. So she called him on Brady's mobile phone one day after the two of them were on their way home from her ice skating practice. Britt and I were fixing dinner, wating for them. I was shocked, because Britt won't talk to Brady or I either one, but he was thrilled to be talking to his sister, and they just talked and talked and talked until Brady and Brailey were home! They giggled and called each other back and forth and had a wonderful time.

So I'm cherishing every second of this spring vacation, listening to them play with one another. First they'll play army, then they'll play High School Musical, then they'll play Reba, then they'll play dress-up, then Brailey will be Britt's teacher (he tells her she's the best teacher he's ever had and calls her "Teach"), and the fun just goes on and on and on. I hope it never ends.

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