Thursday, March 3, 2011

The Secrets of Life

These are the "secrets" I have been sharing with my B's about life. That's what I tell them they are, "the secrets of life." It is probably all way over their heads, but then again, kids are so much smarter than we give them credit for. Hopefully my "great wisdom" will help them to deal with the curve balls life is going to throw at them. One of the benefits of sharing it with them is that it reminds me, which is what I think we all need - constant reminders of healthy, positive thinking. Anyway, I'm sure I'll come up with some more, but here is what I have been telling my little B's about life...

Life isn't fair.
(I tell them to never-ever-ever expect things to be fair, because if you live life that way, you are setting yourself up for constant disappointment. Yes - I speak from experience.)

Life is hard. And it will never be easy.

Turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts.
(This was actually a hard one for me, the first few times I tried it, because I found that I actually LIKED being upset and drama-ridden. But once I got the hang of changing my thought process, which is an ongoing process, it feels so much better!)

Take responsibility for your own actions - don't blame other people.

Always say you're sorry when you hurt someone or do something wrong.
(I am especially trying to emphasize this with Britt, because I don't want him to grow up to be a man that can't say he's sorry or admit when he's wrong.)

Nobody's perfect. And that means everyone!
(We actually sing the Hannah Montana song when we need a reminder that we aren't perfect and it is OKAY TO MAKE MISTAKES. They happen. Nobody's perfect, you live and you learn it...)

Always be respectful. To everyone.

Don't be selfish. You get what you give.

Always do your best.

Never lie - always tell the truth.

Treat people how you want to be treated.

And the latest and greatest secret for my own self, of course, has been to not expect anything from anyone. I'm trying to make this my new mantra (expectations are premeditated resentments) in the hopes it will help me to "work acceptance" into my life, which has always been a battle for me. (And look at me! Back into the spirit of blogging...!)

1 comment:

  1. Happy to see you "blogging away".....I truly love getting your updates & pics of the'll never believe this, but yesterday I was cleaning off my desk here @ home and guess what I came across?? an EASTER card from the 4 B's...with a picture of Britt & Brailey and it was from 2009!!!! and don't worry, I didn't throw it away....
    Love to you ALL~


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