Tuesday, July 25, 2017

Bullies Beware

I wrote this a couple of months ago. I wasn't going to post it, because it is very, very personal. Most of the time, writing is my therapy. Many blog posts sit in the que, never to be shared. But then a friend of mine posted on her blog about her son being bullied, and I realized how rampant it is in today's society, and I decided to share my own post. The summer has gone a long way toward healing our hearts from what we experienced this year, and if this post makes even one person think differently about bullying, then it is worth it.

Bullying. There is such an extreme amount of it today. Just look at the news. Frankly, I think it has always been around. But the truth is, today, there is so much of it going on, it boggles the mind. Especially with girls. Girls are the worst, aren't they? Of course boys are bullies, too, but they are usually more obvious about it. Girls are sneaky and conniving and unforgiving. Girls can pretend to be sweet when they aren't. Either way, girl or boy, I cannot stand bullies.

To the girl who bullied my daughter this year, know this:

Know that my daughter isn't a victim. She's stronger than you, smarter than you and frankly, much nicer than you. She purposely didn't engage in your twisted little game. She didn't stick up for herself. She isn't the kind of girl to participate in the drama of tit for tat and who was right or wrong. In other words, you just weren't worth her time. You didn't matter that much.

But know that I saw you hurting her. Yes. I personally witnessed an incident. And it took everything I had not to go after you and ask you what you thought you were doing. But I restrained myself, knowing how innocent you portray yourself to be. You aren't one to be trusted. You are dishonest, which makes you dangerous.

Know that your lies will catch up to you someday.

And to the girls who jumped on your bandwagon without getting the real story, know this:

Know there are two sides to every story. Did you really believe the lies degrading my daughter's character? Did you truly think it was like her to do the things that were being said? Or were you just so jealous of her that you eagerly believed such garbage? Why would you turn your back on a friend based on someone else's testimony? How could you forget what a good friend my daughter has been to you?

Know that there will be a next time, because bullying isn't exclusive to high school, and you will come across this exact scenario again. Next time, you should investigate. Don't always take one person's word over another person's without talking to both parties. Draw your own conclusions. Research. Seek the truth. Don't be so quick to judge.

Know that you were the victims in this charade of friendship. You fell prey to a controlling, conniving personality. And you lost out on a great, loyal, mature, sweet, fun friend. You are under a bully's control. And you are a bully in a group of bullies.

To all of you, to the group of bullies, know this:

Know when it comes to my daughter? She's okay. She's more than okay. But you did hurt her. You hurt her deeply. If that was your intention, then pat yourself on the back. Yay you! You succeeded. But she's stronger because of your treatment of her. You taught her one of life's biggest lessons - the only people you can really trust in life are immediate family. Friendship is fickle, and true friends are hard to come by.

Know you missed out on a great friend, someone who was true and who was always good to you. And now you are stuck with your same old comfortable tribe. Good luck with that. And thank you for showing your true colors. Better to learn sooner than later you aren't to be trusted.

Oh, and one more thing. When someone bullies my kids? I take it personally. You are bullying me, too. I wanted to tell your parents, but I knew you would lie about it.

To all the parents out there, I say this:

For the love of God, check in with your kids. If you think something is strange, ask them about it. Investigate. Don't always assume your kid is perfect and right. Don't think your kid doesn't need advice. If something seems strange in their story, don't always believe they are telling the truth. Help them come to the real truth. Human brains are not done growing until the age of 25. Don't bury your head in the sand. Talk, really talk, to your kids. Check in with them. DAILY. Bug them. And if you think something weird is going on, look into it. Life is tricky, and none of us are perfect. But bullying is preventable. A little parental guidance goes a long way.

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

BSM Kustom Kanz - Expanding into New Territory

Brailey has been having so much fun with her custom painting business. She has some orders she needs to complete, but she wanted to spread her wings a little and do some designs of her own. So, we checked out the local St. Vinny's and found a couple of pairs of shoes. These moccasins, I will admit, I spied myself. For some reason, I knew they would fit Grandma Diggy so perfectly. And so Brailey painted them with these darling bucking horses and we shipped them to Sacramento, where they have been reported to fit like they were made for Grandma Diggy's feet! Diana (Brady's mother, aka Grandma Diggy) was so thrilled to get them! It was a wonderful surprise for her. She said she had always wanted a pair of moccasins, and although she thought they would be too narrow when she first saw them, they fit her feet like they were custom made just for her. She never imagined a pair of moccasins with bucking horses on them, but she is awfully fond of bucking horses, she said. Brailey was very happy they made her beloved grandmother so happy.
We also found these super cute wedges! The tag says they are an 8.5. Brailey tried them on in the store, and they seemed to fit fine, but after putting them on at home, it is apparent they are sized incorrectly. They are more like a 7, or a 7.5. In any case, she has decided to sell these. So if you want a pair of wedge heels that are one-of-a-kind, here you go! They are a quality brand, also, Soda. Please let us know if you are interested. We can ship these easily! 
A couple of months ago, we recycled these tins and she had a big time painting them. These are also for sale. They would be perfect for jewelry or trinkets or whatever you have in mind.
These are little key chains she painted up one morning. I don't think these are for sale. She is very attached to them! They are a piece of leather from a latigo she recycled. But if you would like one, just let us know and she can paint one special for you.
This is my own personal order. The milk can she painted for our friend Darlene turned out so cute, it inspired me to repaint my own milk can and to have Brailey fancy it up. The pictures don't do this one justice! You can't see the detail in them. In person, it is so cute it is unbelievable, and I love it!
Before she left for rodoe bible camp, she painted a bunch of hat feathers. She loved this one so much she kept it, and it looks amazingly cute! She paired it with another feather, which adds a certain flair. She has quite a few different designs, all on her Instagram page, BSM.Kustom.Kanz. Check them out and let her know if you are interested in one she has done or if you have a design you would like her to paint for you. She would be happy to!
This is the milk can that inspired me to have her paint my own. This turned out so well and is her favorite thing she has ever painted. 
And this little custom sign for a store's dressing room turned out really cute, as well.
Anyway, her designs are improving more all the time and she is having a great time doing it. Last summer, she was so strapped for time, it became a huge burden to her. But this summer, she has a lot more free time, and she has learned how to be more efficient with her painting, which also helps. If you would like something painted, let us know! She can pretty much paint anything you want to have done. I am so proud of her entrepreneurial adventure!

Bullies Beware

I wrote this a couple of months ago. I wasn't going to post it, because it is very, very personal. Most of the time, writing is my th...